Tips for Planning a Simple but Spectacular Wedding

Planning  and pulling off a wedding on a limited budget is very easy. Wrong. It is one of the most challenging things I have done in my life. I know most people reading this will share similar sentiments if only they were on a limited budget 🙂

I had to use the creative juices running in my veins to pull a simple but spectacular event. I first subscribed to Pinterest. It was one of the most important resources I used during that period. From wedding dresses to hairstyles to accessories to decor to ideas on how to cut down on cost in fact, everything can be found on Pinterest. It’s simply awesome. The app also allows you to save the ideas and you can refer to them easily. One vendor was awed at my ideas and I felt I had indeed challenged her.

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Another important resource is Instagram. Instagram is quite resourceful too. It gives you the opportunity to view the works of vendors and allows you to connect with them. Although Instagram gives you more ‘local’ ideas, I always felt pressured when I used that app. Why? Because I could feel the silent competition. It looked as if people were ‘battling’ to be featured there. They either copied someone entirely or totally had to come up with something different in order to be featured. I was not surprised at myself when I unfollowed all the wedding vendors and pages immediately after my wedding ceremony. My advice to those who use Instagram for ideas is that you should have your own ideas and not worry whether your photos get featured or not. Work within your budget and search for vendors who will be willing to work with what you have. You do not necessarily have to go for vendors who have made names in the industry.

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Apart from these two social media platforms, I also read a lot. There are several articles, blog posts on the subject of organizing a wedding. Just google them. I did not only depend on what people had to say about weddings or what I knew about weddings but I decided to do things differently and be a source of inspiration to people.

Another resource is using a couple who have gone through the process and done things that you liked when you attended their weddings. These are people we normally take for granted but they have a whole wealth of knowledge you can tap into.

These were what helped me in the planning processes but it’s also very important to pray during the period for direction. Ask God to direct you to the right vendors because during that time, it did look like all the vendors were trying to take their pound of flesh. The terrible ones can really frustrate you therefore, the need to pray.

Don’t be scared to be different. Go against what you are used to and see your wedding as a platform to tell the story about you and your intended spouse. I was amazed at a couple who were getting married and did exactly what their friends had done two months earlier – from their colour theme to their invitation card to the pre-wedding shoot ideas, all was an ‘imitation.’ Don’t do that; there are several things that haven’t been done yet. Explore! Personalize!!

Where did you get your ideas from when you were planning your wedding? Share your thoughts with us.

This post is a continuation of last week’s post. To get in touch with Mrs EmS, send an email to christianblogghana@gmail.com

 

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How I Planned & had my Wedding Within SIX Months I

Everyday, we wake up to see a lot of likes on the Christian Blog Ghana Facebook Page and we feel bad we are not living up to the expectation of our readers. We are not serving the purpose for which the blog was created: to spread the word, encourage people and fellowship but we do appreciate your continuous support for what we do.

So where do we start from? What reason do we give for this long break? A lot of things happened during the break and one was the organization of a wedding ceremony. Yes, a Christian blogger tied the knot and the team was busy helping her organize the ceremony.

Well, we found her wedding ceremony quite interesting and we asked her to put together a post on how she was able to pull such a beautiful ceremony within a very short period of time and this was what she came up with. We asked her how she wishes to be introduced and she mentioned Mrs.EmS or the little MRS 🙂

Well, my wedding came as a surprise to everyone including myself. I have been dating this wonderful guy for the past five years and we kept reminding ourselves we were tying the knot in 2015. That did not imply we started planning the process immediately. We had other things we wanted to achieve like finding stable jobs, getting a car among others. We became more serious about the wedding preparation when we started the six-month counseling session in my church. Even though we had nothing set for the ceremony, we announced to the counselors we were getting married immediately we ended the session and that was only six months away (faith huh). We wrote to the church to book a date even though we had absolutely nothing for the ceremony. When the church confirmed the date, that was when things got more exciting.

Those who know me very well are aware of the fact that I am not a wedding person like most women. I hardly swoon over wedding ceremonies and wedding photographs and all that. I only attend weddings when I know the people involved and I only go to offer my support. My husband (beloved then) also had the same level of  knowledge as I had (minimal). Now that the church had confirmed the date, how were we going to pull the ceremony off with the little experience we had?

to be continued

 

 

 

 

This is for the PASTORS

“Unless you people see signs and wonders,” Jesus told him, “you will never believe.” John 4:48

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During Jesus’ ministry on earth, the miracles he performed won him a lot of followers. It is believed that these miracles increased the level of faith people had in him and also, the miracles were an indication of his origin, that Jesus was from the Father (John 3:2).

The miracles he performed ranged from healing the sick, turning water into wine, walking on water and feeding 5000 people etc. The miracles he performed had a role to play in Jesus’ ministry: to show his identity (John 14:11), to win more souls to repentance (John 20:30-31) and also to get the attention of the people (John 7: 2-5).

Christians in our time are becoming more and more like the people of Jesus’ days, in their quest to seeing instant miracles.  We are seeking for signs and wonders more than the Word  of God. Christians would rather switch from one church to the other looking for miracles than read a simple scripture from the Bible.

Instant miracles in themselves are not negative but it becomes an issue if that is the only thing we desire to see. If we observe a great number of pastors concentrating on conducting miracles than on teaching the congregation then we, Christians are to be blamed.

As a pastor, you need to ask yourself why you are focusing on performing on miracles. Is it the church pushing you to display those powers or you are following the dictates of the Holy Spirit? Do not let your desire to get famous and trend on social media push you into doing “wondrous” things.

While you are going about your work as a man or woman of God, remember that while Jesus was expanding his ministry, the people demanded more miracles from him (John 6:30). A number of them refused to believe him even when he performed those miracles (Matthew 13:54-58) and others who believed through the miracles had a temporal faith (John 6:26).

Miracles alone are not enough. There has been several examples of people who have been healed by men of God and after a while, whatever disease they were healed of attacked them again. This happened because the people who got healed did not know how to remain in good health.

Teach the congregation about the power of God and how they, members of the congregation can chase demons without spoiling the sleep of preachers. Let them know that their lives and their walk with Christ goes further than seeing miracles.

 

 

 

 

Expectations – Have they been met?

It’s been quite a while since we posted anything on the blog. Several reasons account for this including the fact that the team is thinking of reconstructing the blog. If you have any ideas of what you would like to see or read about, do not hesitate to send us a mail on christianblogghana@gmail.com. We would like to hear from you!

The year is steadily is drawing to a close. A lot of us had dreams, hopes, ambitions and expectations of how we wanted the year to be. Some of our hopes have been dashed, others were achieved. During this time of the year, some people refuse to chase after their dreams because they start making plans for the new year. Do not be like that. There is still hope!

Remember in Deuteronomy  3:16 where we are assured to be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them because the Lord our God goes with us; he will never leave you nor forsake you.

Let us cast our minds to the fact that some people began the year with us and are nowhere to be found. Some have fallen sick, others are dejected and others have completely lost their faith but we are still alive to continue dreaming and hoping for what we would like to see in our lives.

Instead of losing hope and getting disappointed, why don’t you rather fix your eyes on the Lord who knows better than you do (Isaiah 55:8) and the one who has good plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:13).

Your life is testimony to other! Let us continue to run the race till we get to the finish line.

Do not give up!

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Be Frank: What will you do in these instances?

A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest– and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man – Proverbs 6:10 -11
This is one very popular verse in the Bible, quoted by a lot of people to remind
Christians not to be lazy. The high rate of unemployment in Ghana is real; a lot of people complete college and finding a job becomes a nightmare. To find any job as a graduate from the university is a prayer answered. What are some of the attitudes we put up when God provides us with a job? Let’s be frank, what will you do in the following instances –
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You have prayed a job and for money and you have both now. You were sent on an assignment and have been provided with some amount of money. You did not use all the money you were given, will you bring the money back to the company or keep it?
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You find yourself in a work environment where about three quarters of the workers are unbelievers, will you quit the job or what?
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You have a job which prevents you from attending church service on Sundays. You have stayed in the house for such a long time and your current employees were the only ones who contacted you and offered you this job. What will your do?
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What if you job allows you to promote all the things the Bible speaks against – pre-marital sex/adultery, alcohol, drugs, lottery etc.
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You are the leader of a group in church. Your pastor needs you immediately. Your boss is a non-christian and has given something to do which is not too pressing. What will you do?
We would really, really love to know what your reactions would be in these instances. Please comment directly on the blog. Thanks 🙂

3 Deceptions about Christianity Most People are Not Told

Everyone has their conception of what Christianity is or what it ought to be. We believe Christianity is not just any religion but a relationship with the creator which needs to be built overtime. It is believing your life is not yours to live but you being accountable to your creator. It is consciously renewing this belief and building your relationship with the Holy Spirit as well.

There are some truths about the faith that are hidden from most people. Such people are accept the faith, they begin to worship God and after some time they get frustrated because they feel Christianity is difficult. These deceptions are simple but yet, they have the ability to cause people to backslide. Below are examples of such misconceptions:

Christianity means your life is free of challenges

This is one of the first misconceptions about the faith. The Bible in James 1: 2 mentions that we should count it joy when we meet trials of various kinds for we know that the testing of our faith produces steadfastness. This implies that our Christian walk is not trial – free.  Each day comes with a new challenge but if we know that God’s mercies are new each day, we will not be afraid when dawn breaks but rather we would be excited knowing that our God has everything under control. Even when the challenges come we will smile at them, like Jesus in the boat with his disciples during the storm, we will only speak and the storm will be calm – Matthew 8:23.

Christianity means you should not work hard

Jesus Christ performed miracles in his ministry. The woman with the issue of the blood had to make an effort to touch the garment of Jesus and that was when power was released from him to heal the woman – Matthew 9:20. Even for a miracle to take place, there had to be an effort on the part of the woman. This proves that miracles can happen when we also make an effort. Do not sleep and expect to be rich. Unbelievers will keep running the affairs of the world, if we pray without working hard. Spend some time to pray and also some time to work hard; this is the only way we can succeed in the faith.

Christianity means it is easy to have faith

This is one of the easiest means of getting hold of our miracles- having faith. The Bible mentions that if we have faith as small as a mustard seed, we can say to a mountain that it should move into the sea and that mountain will obey our voice (Luke 11:6). There are challenges that we see each day, the only thing we need to do is to speak to them and they will obey but why haven’t we been able to do that? This is because building faith is something we need to do each day. It does not come easily but it is possible. We can start with the little things in our lives, soon we will be able to tell the huge things to vanish and yes, they will obey us.

Are there any misconceptions you knew before becoming a Christian? Share them with us.

5 Empowering Scriptures you Need to Know as a Christian

How many of us agree that the Christian walk is not as easy. Even Paul admits in 2 Corinthians 4:8 that we are tempted on every side but are not crushed. Each day we are faced with different trials which are supposed strengthens us, according to the Bible and the only way we can face each day and battle is by using the appropriate scriptures, that is the only way we can reassure ourselves of God promises for our lives. Today, I am sharing five scriptures which always encourage me whenever I am faced with challenges of the day. As usual, you can also share those that inspire you.

Scripture 1: Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans and thoughts that I think towards you. They are thoughts of good and not evil. They are thoughts to give hope and a future.

Scripture 2: Isaiah 40:31  

Those who wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount on wings like eagle. They shall run and not be weary they shall walk and not grow faint.

Scripture 3: Psalm 23:1                                                                                              

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.                                                                                                                                                                                                       Scripture 4: Mathew 19:26                                                                                        

With man, this is impossible but with God, all things are possible.

Scripture 5: Philippians 4:6                                                                                      

Be anxious for nothing but in everything with prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be known to God and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Changed Perspectives

When I was much younger, I had wanted to grow up quickly so I would take my own decisions. I loved to pray and my requests were mostly centered on my growth process. I imagined by the time I turned thirty, I would be married, have the best job and probably be driving the best car and have the whole world under my feet.

Now, I am very grown and I take my own decisions which isn’t too bad but I see life to be a complicated process. Things do not always go the way we want them. I used to imagine there would be a period in my life where I wouldn’t have to spend so much time praying because all my request would be answered. I know there are people like me who feel they would get to such points in their lives but I doubt that will ever happen. Maybe when we die, we would stop praying 😉

Life is a little bit different from what I had imagined some years back. I have accepted that I cannot stop praying. I have also accepted that not all my requests are in line with God’s promises. My newest policy is to take each day as and when it comes. What keeps me going now is not what I have achieved or what I will ever achieve but I am excited to be alive each day. I have joy not because I drive the best car(I do not even drive) 🙂 nor do I work at some international company receiving dollars at the end of the month 🙂 but I know I am living my purpose. I proclaim God’s word whenever the opportunity presents itself and I pray each time to ensure I am aligned to His purpose for my life and if I die today, I know I would have contributed in winning souls for God’s kingdom. I believe that is the most important thing in this life.

What is the most important thing to you now? We would like you to share that with us!

5 Actions that Kill Relationships

For the past couple of weeks, we have been describing various ways of building relationships. While we build them up, it is important to keep in mind that there are certain actions that can also kill these relationships. Below are five of such killers:

1. Introducing your partner to everyone in the early stages: In their excitement, a number of couples announce their relationships too quickly to the world which isn’t a bad idea but the best thing to do is to build the foundations properly before introducing yourselves to friends, family, work colleagues, etc. The more you introduce third parties, the more you open the relationship to varied opinions which may be contrary to what you saw in each other. You may second guess and that could be disastrous for your relationship.

2. Announcing on social media: One of the deadliest actions which kills relationships is this. We know we must have faith as Christians but changing your relationship status or the display or profile photos to your partner’s does nothing but attract attention to you and your partner. What if you announce on social media and the relationship does not go as planned? As much as possible, let us keep our relationships to ourselves. They are private and not meant for the world.

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3. Avoiding early warnings: Most of the time when we fall in love, our brains go on vacation 🙂 We avoid all the signs and allow our hearts to lead us. This guy is not generous; everything he acquires is for him. The lady spends all the money she acquires on clothes and make-up. You know you would have preferred the opposite but you are allowing your heart to lead you. These signs develop to something different and they kill relationships.

4. Not investing in the relationship: Building a relationship requires time, money and creativity. If you know you do not want to invest in any of these then don’t start one. You need to spend time with each other and on each other. The Bible mentions that in Proverbs 21:26the righteous gives and does not hold back.

5. Fornication: Most young people quickly give in to sex in the relationship. Guilt from the encounter normally kills what has been developed earlier. Having sex also takes away the innocence of the couple. Sex is addictive;  it has the power to take away a lot of things from the relationship including the time that the couple spend discussing and planning for the future. In 1 Corinthians 6:18, the Bible warns, Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.

Resources that Make Christian Relationships Work in Ghana

It’s been an awesome week for us here at Christian Blog Ghana. We appreciate the support and the “likes” that we’ve been receiving on our Facebook page. We hope the love we have received will extend to real testimonies and articles from you, our cherished readers.

Back to our series on making relationships work and our focus in this post is on the available resources that aid in that

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Just like we are taken to school to acquire knowledge or read books to broaden our intellect, it is also wise to acquire knowledge in the field of relationships. It is amazing how much time and money we invest in our looks, clothes, food, other books among others but never spend any time seeking information on starting and keeping relationships, Proverb 19:2 says. “Desire without knowledge is not good, and whoever makes haste with his feet misses his way.” This is the reason we should seek knowledge as believers. 

We may desire to have lasting relationships with the opposite sex but if we do not make time to learn about how it is done, then our relationships will not last. 

As Christians, where can we seek the right information which will us build our relationships?

Books and Tapes – There are several books written by different authors on this subject. A lot of Ghanaian pastors and counselors have written books and recorded tapes on this subject. A few of them include Bishop Dag Heward Mills, Elder Amos Kevin Annan, Reverend Dr. Samuel Kissiedu and many more. If you are seeking books written by authors who are not Ghanaians, then look for Myles Munroe’s “Waiting and Dating.” There are several others by T.D Jakes. Just visit a good Christian bookshop and you will have a wide array to select from.

Radio and Television Programmes –  Helpers of our Joy is a relationship and marriage counselling programme which airs on Sweet Melodies 97.3 FM on weekdays from 9-10 pm. The programme features renowned marriage counselors who provide biblical insight for your relationship.

Mama Cathy also features on Sunny Fm 88.7 FM every Sunday at 9-11pm in a show dubbed Echoes of Hope Radio Broadcast. On Saturdays after the 6 am news on Joy 99.7 FM, Edem Knight-Tay and her team discuss relationship and marriage issues on Home Affairs.

Counselor Luderodt is also one of the most vibrant counselors in the country at the moment. He features on several programmes both on radio and television.

Events

If you do not mind spending time with students at the University of Ghana then there are several events on relationships in that institution. What you need to do is to keep your ears wide opened and you will hear about them.

There are other events in other churches that you can attend. Just keep an open ear.

Have you been reading on the subject of relationships? What is your favorite book or programme on relationships, which you would readily recommend to anybody? Do share!