“Marriage is an encounter. How many couples would agree with me?” Pastor Fiifi Otabi Wilson of ICGC Faith Temple asked in his sermon on Sunday, May 28 2017.
The cheers from the married couples in the auditorium was enough to confirm that marriage is more than a bed of roses but a real ‘encounter.’
Some of us may not be too old in the business of marriage (just a little over a year and a half) but we can attest to the fact that marriage is a lot more.
Most married couples, when given the opportunity, would definitely not settle for the people they are living with. If there was a petition which would allow them about a year’s orientation of marriage before they finally decide who their partners would be, there would be a lot of signatures. I’m sure people would not even get married after the first year.
Marriage is indeed a classroom on its own. It is a course by itself. A lot of married couples love to show the beautiful aspect of it, especially on social media. Just like every form of media, the couple selects what they would want the people to see and nobody would let you see the challenging aspect of marriage.
When you get married, friends approach you and pose the famous question, “Oh, so how is married life?”
Most of us Christians would smile and say, “Oh, it’s wonderful.”
In my opinion, young people who are yet to sign these agreements deserve some exposition on marriage. When this question is posed to me, I like to be as real as possible. I don’t pretend.
I clear my throat and say, “my friend, it isn’t a joke. If you know you love to be by yourself, you are in love with your sleep and love your simple lifestyle, then marriage is not your thing,” I say to them. “You better stay in your parents’ house or rent your apartment and be by yourself. Do not worry yourself or someone’s child by getting married to them because this institution is hard work,” I add.
This is a period in life where you are stretched on all sides – your patience, hard work, Godliness and every other aspect of you is tested. No wonder, the congregation agreed with Pastor Wilson that marriage is an encounter.
This is when you begin to understand the importance of marrying someone who is a friend.
You should know how to be a manager of resources – money, time, people (yes, your in-laws are waiting for you particularly if you are a Ghanaian). This would go a long way in defining how the marriage would turn out.
Seek Godly counsel. It’s very important. Do not write off some counselors because they do not speak your kind of language. Listen to them all and select what is useful before you settle with a partner because, for us Christians, divorce is mostly not an option.
It is after you marry, that is when you realize the importance of the premarital counseling (even though during that period, our main concern was the wedding ceremony 😞 ).
All is not gloomy if both of you share the same faith because God is always available to provide us with the help that we need, for He is our shepherd.
Before you go to the altar to say your vows, remember to invest a lot of prayer in the decision you have made for the journey is indeed a long one. And as my mother keeps saying, there is no vacation in marriage 🙂
This post was put together by Delali Kumapley–Sogah. Delali is a blogger and the manager of thechristianblogghana.wordpress.com.