In the previous post, we discussed the various factors that contributed in making a Christian relationship work. Apart from praying, keeping a checklist and developing friendship, there are other factors that come into play for a relationship to progress from one stage to the other and they will be considered in this post.
Friendship development in the early stages of the relationship cannot be understated. Ensure you are friends and to test if you are ready to move the relationship from one stage to the other, ask yourself the following questions:
- Will I be able to have all kinds of conversations with him?
- Can I really call him/her a friend?
- Do I care so much to help him out when he is in need?
- Will I be able to introduce him to my family and friends?
In accepting the proposal, you have to bear in mind that you will not go back on your words. Deuteronomy 23:23 says, “You shall be careful to do what has passed your lips, for you have voluntarily vowed to the Lord your God what you have promised with your mouth.” Keep the promise.
Nobody is perfect. Even the most handsome, richest Christians may have an issue or the other. Make up your mind, you are going to help him/her solve their problems and that you will not run away 🙂 If you know you will run away immediately the problems start then do not accept the proposal. Do not test the waters, as some ladies end up doing. Be certain before you take any step. Yes, counselors advise it is better to break up a relationship than marriage but don’t also lead a person on if you aren’t certain about them. When the guy proposes to you, tell them you are thinking and praying about it. Commit it to pray. Get convicted. It can take days and even months. If the person is the one you are meant to be with, they will wait for you and the relationship will surely work out. The Bible even testifies to in Romans 8:28 that “All things work together for good for they that love Him.”
It is important to seek the face of God especially regarding issues such as who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. As a lady, don’t be moved by the looks of the guy or his money or the fact that you are growing and that person could be your only choice. Ask God, get convicted before accepting that proposal.